Find Your Self-Care Soulmate for an Awesome Mom Life
For Self-care that makes you a better mom; Quality matters.
As a graduate student in the field of mental health, I hear the phrase “Self-Care” often.
It’s like the mental health buzz word.
Everyone is talking about self-care.
For good reason.
Self-care is essential to everyone’s life, no matter what you are doing. You have to take care of you.
You will not be able to do anyone any good if you aren’t taken care off.
"Secure your own face mask before securing your child’s."
If you've ever traveled by air, I’m sure you’ve heard the plane announcement before take off.
I think it’s a natural reaction to think about your child first, to want them to have air before you, instead of you even.
But what good are you to them if you are unconscious?
Self-care is the same.
What will the quality of interaction be with your child, if you’re stressed and cranky?
Are you a better parent when you feel good, or when your feeling overwhelmed?
A better mood makes a better parent, I really don’t think we can question that.
There are many moms out there rocking it despite serious challenges such as depression, but the reality is: it’s easier to take care of our children when we feel good.
It’s easier to play, it’s easier to laugh, it’s easier not to break, not to yell. It’s easier to stay calm if they misbehave. It’s just easier.
Self-care helps with this, immensely. But….
It’s important to note that
the “quality of self-care” is important.
Part of this is knowing what works for you.
We can spend hours practicing self-care that’s ineffective.
Spending a couple of hours watching TV may sound like self-care to you, but if you get to the end of that two hours feeling like you wasted your time, feeling unfulfilled and still stressed. Was that worth it?
If your self-care doesn’t leave you ready to take on the world when you're done….you may need a different strategy.
It’s a classic quality over quantity scenario. Ten minutes of self-care that fits for you will provide a much greater benefit than two hours of “self-care” that isn’t efficient for you.
Mindless entertainment may do that for some people, I’m not one of them.
I enjoy the occasional Netflix binge, I can’t deny that.
To me, it’s not self-care.
It leaves me lethargic and feeling unproductive.
Not energized, not at all.
Now I’m not saying give these things up entirely, if you don’t want to, don’t.
Your life mama; live it.
However… I highly recommend finding a form of self-care that replenishes your soul.
That brings you back into the game. Clears your mind, relieves your stress, and mentally and emotionally prepares you to take on the next challenge life will throw your way.
For me, it’s meditation and exercise.
My personality needs self-care that feels productive without being stressful.
Meditation is a learning experience, I’m learning about myself, and the art of focus.
Exercise has it’s obvious benefits and is just a mood booster in general.
Those are my personal self-care soul-mates.
I also enjoy a massage.
What works for me may not work for you at all, what drains me might energize you.
How do you find high quality self-care?
It’s about identifying your needs.
Maybe you're like me and you need your self-care to be productive.
Or maybe you need it to be a challenge, like a hobby, sport, or a strategic game.
Maybe you need it to be mindless like binge watching netflix.
Whatever makes you ready for life.
Whatever takes you from “I just can’t adult today”
to “Bring it on, Life”.
Self-Care is individual.
It may take a few tries to find a fit, keep trying new options.
Find your best form…and practice it often.
Don’t waste your time on self-care that doesn’t make a huge impact in your life.
When your self-care soulmate you will know.
Have you already found your self-care soulmate? Let me know in the comments!