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My Nightly Self-Reflection Routine

There is one piece of advice I give to every person I work with. 

Know who you are.

I believe the key to a happy fulfilling life is simple. 

find your purpose and live it.

If you don't know yourself and what you really want out of this life, how on earth will you ever find your purpose. 

The concept of purpose seeking is something that I intend to explore thoroughly in this blog and in my Mom|Life Balance Success Coaching

In the last several years I have helped many clients figure out who they are, to get what they want. 

Sometimes it's simply: I want less stress and more happiness. 

Sometimes it's finding a new career that ignites your passion. 

Whatever it may be the path is the same. 

So today I want to talk about one of my favorite steps to understanding who you are and who you want to be.  

Self-Reflection

Self-Reflection can take many forms. Making it a part of my daily routine has been essential to my own self-discovery. 

Mom life is hectic, and we don't have very many quiet moments to sit and contemplate. 

That's why self-reflection is part of my nightly routine, when everyone is asleep

 

When I don’t keep up with the routine, I notice. 

I’m crankier, I’m stressed. I’m just not content. 

I need that me time. 

Particularly when I’m feeling anything overwhelming whether it’s happiness, sadness, stress.

I make an extra effort to reflect before bed. 

 

The reality is that this process is so easy and unstructured that it's relatively easy to do every single day. 

Often I fall asleep before I feel I'm finished, and that's okay. There is no wrong way to do this. 

 

 

For me , this process is simple. 

I talk.

I have a one-sided conversation without speaking a work. 

Simply putting the conversation out into the universe. 

My anxiety, stress, joy, gratitude. All of it. 

 

This serves the same purpose as speaking to a therapist might. 

It’s confidential. I can say anything I want, no fear

 

I can acknowledge my feelings, ones that  I won’t admit to anyone else. 

I start to think and analyze things that I don’t even like to say to myself. 

 

It’s soul exploration. 

I find this process to be incredibly therapeutic. 

 

As a mental health professional, I can see why. 

We need our feelings to be put into words. We need them validated, even if we’re validating them to ourselves. There is incredible power in that process. 

There is power in putting your emotions into words, no matter who you may be talking to. 

Whether it's in the form of Therapy, Prayer or Self-Reflection. 

 

You may like to start by going over your day.

How you are feeling?

What are you grateful for?

What are your goals and wishes?

What’s breaking your heart?

What’s making you smile?

 

 

Tell the universe.

Don’t just think about it.

Put it into words, use your inner voice. 

 

Tell the universe, so you can understand for yourself. 

Self-CareBrooke Cole